How To Tell Your Sons You Have Cancer

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Help Find A Cure For Liver Cancer

Help Find A Cure For Liver Cancer

First, my doctors and I both believe that telling your children that you have a terminal disease is important. No matter how difficult or uncomfortable it may be its nothing to how your children would feel when a loved one dies without telling them that they’re even sick.

I was diagnosed with liver cancer on 4/15 of this year. A procedure called T.A.B.E. was unsuccessful so I was scheduled to meet the Palliative Care team. Prior to cancer I had never heard the term “Palliative” nor had I ever used it in a conversation. I should have had a clue because of its locale in The Moore’s Cancer Center at the Thornton Campus in La Jolla.

In just a few minutes my life changed and reality came crashing down around me. The head physician told me that my cancer was going end my life in about a year or any period before a year or sometime after a year. Really, that was the time frame that he gave me. I don’t pay any attention to the time frame as it’s just an estimate based on historical data. The one factor missing in their equation is me, the patient & it doesn’t show how much I want to live.

Needless to say I was shocked which quickly turned to anger. I was now standing in the corner of the room trying to estimate how many steps it was to him and whether to hit him with a front kick, side kick or just smack the smile off his face.

After a lot of thinking I realized that he was doing his job & I’m sure that he doesn’t take any pleasure from it. He & I have become a working team & I actually like him & respect the work that he does for those in the same position as myself. All it took was two words from me; “I’m sorry.”

My first concern was how do I tell my sons. My ideas ran the gamut from absurd to grandiose. Fortunately the Palliative team includes a clinical social work who worked with me on everything from timing to delivery.

The day arrived and I looked at Marti and she gave me the signal that meant this was as good a time as any. I asked if I could talk to them. I kept it short and simple and after telling them that I had cancer I asked if they had any questions.

Trevor (age almost 13): Asked if we could produce a Cancer Television Commercial
Trent (just turned 11):   Asked if was contagious

They had no more questions & they quickly went back to building Lego pieces. Per the social workers suggestion I had kept it simple & I kept my emotions in check.

I had a different version in my head, one that included uncontrollable sobbing, which goes to show I don’t have a clue about some things. So, the once dreaded responsibility wasn’t so difficult after all and is now behind me.

NOTE: Recently I had an MRI & biopsy & my cancer is stable which means it hasn’t gotten better but it hasn’t hasn’t gotten any worse. Some days thats all you’re going to get and you just have to be happy with that.

My thanks to the entire palliative team at UCSD.
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Tweet This…….

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Now that Sage Summit has come and gone, blogs have been written, speeches given, hundreds of Tweets sent and received, keynotes given, sessions attended, planes caught, some not; some were delayed due to weather and were bumpy, others were as smooth as a baby’s bottom.

Going back to the Twitter subject, one day during Summit I received 1,100+ Tweets, isn’t that a bit much? I say yes, how much noise is the human brain able to assimilate? I can’t speak for yours but everything going on around me at Summit the last thing I need Is 1,100 Tweets. I’m not sure of the exact number that I’m no longer assimilating but rather I’m just deleting groups of 10 – 20 Tweets but I do know what the number isn’t and that’s 1,100

Summit was my first experience with social media when I wanted to grind my Galaxy Note 2 into small pieces, get a home phone without an answering machine, no pager. If I answered the phone it meant I was home, if not I wasn’t there, you’d have to call back.

This doesn’t mean that I dislike Twitter; it just means that I don’t need 1,100 Tweets per day so slow your Twitter roll and if you tweeted during Summit and I didn’t get back now you know why.

Take Care

Bill & Sons, Trent and Trevor

How did you catch cancer?

Help Find A Cure For Liver Cancer

Help Find A Cure For Liver Cancer

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This list contains some of the questions that I’ve heard from a lot of well-meaning people. It’s not meant to be mean or malicious, just an observation.

Are you dying?
How did you catch cancer?
Is it contagious?
How long do you have to live?
What stage is it in?
Where is the cancer located? (Body part)
You’re only given what you can handle.
All you need to do is think positive
Half the battle is the mindset. Be determined to beat cancer and you will
I know how you feel (unless you’ve had cancer, you don’t know)
By the way I’m feeling fine; I get fatigued easily but that’s a combination of the cancer and all
the medication I have to take daily.

I think that the best thing someone  can say to a cancer patient is “How’s your health” “How are you feeling today?”

Don’t stop asking as it’s appreciated and gives me more reason to fight this bout with cancer

The Power of Community

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The Power of Community

This is the unofficial official last word on Sage Summit 2013. A lot of positives have been written about this year’s conference. I’ve heard very little negative and its success is due to the work of the entire Event team. As of this writing they’re already meeting to plan for next year’s invasion of Sin City, Las Vegas!

Even though the doctors have told me not to plan out that far it’s my goal to be in Las Vegas next year enjoying what has long become my favorite conference. As my doctor told me she’s been wrong 100% of the time, there is something to be said for consistency.

It was very evident to me this past Summit that the group that I started in May of 2008 passed the group status and now sits comfortably on its own as a community. The difference you ask?

The first point is that groups are managed while communities are nurtured.
A ‘group’ has a connotation of people being put together, where a ‘community’ has a connotation that individuals have come togetheron their own.
Is your group perceived as a benefit to its members?
Does your group keep your members engaged and interested?

Let me give you a couple of examples why I think the LinkedIn Group is a community.

Because of my cancer I haven’t been able to earn what I need to cover my monthly expenses, so I had made the decision not to attend. Summit. In May I received an email from Joe Noll, ‎President at RKL eSolutions LLC in Lancaster PA. In his email he offered to pay for my registration, airfare and hotel costs. I have never communicated with Joe in any form. I was dumbfounded. When I asked him why he was doing this his answer “for all that I’ve done and continue to do for the Sage Community”

My registration was covered by Sage, thanks Ed Kless and to top things off Dave Knorr, Renee Knorr & Cheryl Masseth sent me a check for consulting services that were marginal at best.Bill Sean Tess BorosBill Diana Peter

All the “best of health” wishes, kind words, hugs, finally meeting Sarah Michel, who is the impetus behind this blog; Joe Ward, spending time with Wayne Schulz, Robert Wood, Diana Waterman and many others.

A community band together in times of need helps those that need the help. I’m sure there are other stories out there like mine. The truth is, I had too much pride to publicize my situation and I know I’m not the only one. How can people help if they don’t know? There is a community all around you know that will help. Use it when need and more important help those that need your help.

My only wish for this community after I’m gone is that it retains its sense of a community and continues to grow by attracting quality members.
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Hope to see you all In Las Vegas

I Could Have Missed It All…..

Fathers  Day 2013 6This past week was the annual Sage Summit Partner/Customer Conference  which was held in Washington D.C. at the Gaylord Conference Center and Resort.

I have been to every Sage Summit since its inception and more than a few when  it was Insights.Bill Bo Paul

This Summit was a special one for me and if the doctors are right it will be my  last so it was important for me to attend. Sage gave me the opportunity to say thanks to the Sage Community and also to tell the attendees what’s going on with my health.
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Joe Noll of Lancaster, PA showed me what an incredible human being he is, as  did Dave & Cheryl from LDK Consulting. The love that the Sage community showed me was overwhelming. An example of this was when I was talking to Diana Waterman, an incredible human being and one of my favorite Sage employees, a  gentleman walked up to us that I’ve never met and introduced himself as Pramod Gandhi  from Dubai. In a very humble manner he asked about my health and then he said, “Bill, we are  praying for you in Dubai.” You could have bowled Diana and myself over  with a feather. It was then that I finally understood the global reach that my  LinkedIn Group had accomplished. The entire week was like that for me from Sage executives to partners like Pramod.

I had to conserve my energy so I didn’t go out to the parties. Today I’m wiped  out and know that I will fall asleep right after takeoff but no matter I will take these memories with me on whatever journey I embark on.

Thank you to the following ( I apologize if I’ve left your name off, it’s no  reflection of you, but rather a reflection of my crappy memory)

Joo Sohn / Kevin Rooker / LDK Consulting / Joe Langer / Diana Waterman / Sophie  Leguillette / Himanshu Palsule  /Tammy Mathews/ Connie Certusi /Pascal Houllion / Wayne Schulz/ Lori Schultz / Pramod Gandhi / Danielle Cote / Robert Wood/ Joe Ward / Suzanne Spear / Joe Noll  and of course Marti Wolfson

I do hope and pray that my doctors are wrong in their prognosis because I do want to live longer and spend more time with my sons and I sure don’t want to miss Sage Summit 2014 in Vegas. Please don’t stop being who you are. What I’ve found going through this process is that it doesn’t take much effort to make someone’s day just a little bit better as you did mine.

I have been given money for the purpose of adding to my son’s college fund and also for liver cancer research. I hope this doesn’t come off as pandering but both are great places to donate money.

My mailing address is:
1025 Stratton Drive
Vista, CA. 92083

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Make the Most of Sage Summit in D.C.

Written By: Joe Langner EVP, General Manager Sage Mid-Market Solutions

Over the last year, we’ve gone from being product-line focused to a customer- and market-led organization. At last year’s Sage Summit, we laid the foundation and infrastructure for the future and prioritized our portfolio to enable us to increase investments in areas, such as cloud and mobility. Last year’s conference was a huge success, and based on your valuable feedback and the considerable progress we’ve made, Sage Summit 2013 will be our biggest, and should prove to be our best event ever. The largest education and networking event for Sage customers and partners, we expect 4,000 members from the Sage community to attend.

In his opening keynote, Sage North America CEO Pascal Houillon will discuss the Sage vision, what’s new and what’s coming, new cloud service offerings, and more.

The partner portion of the conference will bring you the latest information on strategy and products. Like no other conference, Sage Summit will help you become more productive, push the envelope, hear what’s working for others, and bring a new energy to your workplace. Sage Summit 2013 offers many different ways to learn—from scheduled breakouts to hands-on labs to the innovative new Idea Xchange sessions. Regardless of which product you use or what field of work you’re in, the topics are certain to be relevant and interesting to you.

At the Sage Marketplace Live Expo, you will get a hands-on look at specific applications and be able to talk with software developers who are as committed to your success as we are.

The innovative concept of Sage City builds on the networking aspect of the conference and facilitates business discussions and alliances. We are excited about the opportunity this provides to customers to meet like-minded peers, share ideas, and overcome similar business challenges.

On Monday, July 22, Sage executives and thought leaders will lead Super Sessions that offer deeper insight into topics from customer experience to the future of Sage products:

  • Understanding the Sage Product and Technology Strategy
  • How to Map the Customer Experience
  • Growing Your Business Through Solutions-Based Selling—Greg Hammermaster, president, Sage Payment Solutions, and I are leading this session.
  • Fundamentals of High-Performing Firms—How to Get (and Keep) a Competitive Edge

Then on Monday night, July 22, let loose and have some fun at our not-to-be-missed annual partner party! This year’s event is all about good times in The District, with themed hangouts and locally inspired eats. Plus enjoy games, activities, and even a table tennis tournament. But mostly, come by to enjoy the open bar, live music from partner bands, and a chance to greet old friends and make some new ones.

On Wednesday, July 24, Sage presents A Night at the Smithsonian for customers, exhibitors, and business partners with a six-day pass. This private party is unlike any other you’ve ever experienced. For one night, the Sage community will take over the Smithsonian Institute’s National Museum of American History: Journey through some of the most important American stories; get a firsthand look at the Old Glory Flag; check out Dorothy’s ruby slippers and other American icons. Plus enjoy great food, fun games, and great company.

Sage Summit week marks a new beginning for Sage in North America as we prepare to move to the second stage of our journey, which is accelerating to the cloud.

In addition to coming to the Partner Days of Sage Summit 2013, I encourage you to reinforce the value proposition that we deliver to customers, by attending the Customer Days of the conference with your customers, as well. Thank you to all our Sage business partners who are investing your time and money to attend. We appreciate your commitment and loyalty.

I look forward to seeing you at the conference. If we’ve not yet met, please introduce yourself to me, and if we have, be sure to come by and say hello.
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Warmest regards,

Joe Langner EVP, General Manager Sage Mid-Market Solutions

Sage Summit 2013

Sage Summit 2013